Living in China has made me a more insular person in a lot of ways. I spend a lot more time on my own than I did in Australia, mainly as a result of living on my own for two years. As such, you naturally spend a lot of time reflecting on yourself: your own problems, challenges, happiness and clarity. This is heightened by the constant, subconscious barrage that comes as a result of living immersed in such a different (and in many ways unrelatable) culture: you spend a lot of time thinking "I'd never do that. I'd never act that way., I'm better than that." Which, in turn, makes you feel like a bit of a dick.
As such, I try and take the time to realise (on a regular basis) I need to get perspective, and try to relate to the world and people around me. Sometimes things are good, and sometimes they are hard. But almost always, I have things really good, and am lucky. Great mates, great job, pretty great life. There will always be things I'd change, and I will have certain regrets to reflect on for the rest of my life: what If I'd acted differently? What if I'd been stronger? What if I hadn't given up? Where would I be now?
We all live in our own heads. But we all have so much in common, too. We all need perspective.